How To Tell If You Have Good Communication In Your Relationship

Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship, especially a romantic one. The success of your relationship depends on your ability to communicate your needs and actively listen to your partner's needs. Ineffective communication patterns often lead to conflict and misunderstanding, because without the right skills, your needs will not be met.

Communication in relationships is crucial for a happy and healthy partnership. Your partner is probably the person you spend the most time with, which means there is a higher risk of misunderstanding and conflict.

Healthy communication means being effective both as a speaker and as a listener. As a speaker, we are responsible for introducing or conveying information. This may be verbal or non-verbal communication. Together we must process the information.

6 Signs of Communication Traps and Bad Habits:

Passive-Aggressive Behavior

If there is passive-aggressive communication in any relationship, this is one of the telltale signs to look out for. Poor communication frequently includes silent treats, jokes that are true thoughts, condescending rhetoric, blaming the other person, and yelling over trivial matters.

Interrupting a conversation

Is there anything more annoying than trying to have a discussion with someone who keeps interrupting your thoughts? Couples should be able to have conversations where both parties have the opportunity to express themselves and be heard. Constant interruption is a red flag that should not be ignored, and is one of the signs of poor communication in a relationship.

He or she lies to you.

If you're looking for a healthy relationship, you need to build trust with your partner, but this can be difficult if you realize that your partner has a habit of not being honest, no matter how big the lie.

During the argument, they defend themselves.

When you're in the middle of a heated argument, it can be hard to communicate without getting defensive-but such "communication" isn't healthy and will only cause problems instead of solving them.

Quiet behavior

One of the most common communication problems that partners face is silence. Ignoring your thoughts and feelings is nothing worse than a habit. You will know you have a poor communicator when he or she does not respond to the conversation but chooses to remain silent.

Screaming and shouting

This form of communication suppresses the message in the relationship and creates additional problems that distract the partner from the main conflict or problem. Shouting and swearing is a clear sign of emotional dysregulation on the part of the person doing it.

Whether we believe it or not, we are in constant contact with each other. In addition to words, we communicate unconsciously through non-verbal expressions such as facial expressions and body language, tone of voice and behavior.

 

How to fix an absence of communication in your relationship:

Speak clearly and understandably

 Always express the problem or complaint together with a proposal for action or change. I wish you would wash the dishes you use every night to save me time in the morning. 

Seeking understanding

Seeking understanding allows you to invest in the relationship, as both parties can go as deep as necessary to discover the "why" behind every issue and action. I'd like to ask you about your comment when you said, 'I feel frustrated with you because you're not answering correctly.

Don't try to read their minds.

Sometimes you can tell how someone is feeling just by looking at them. It's not always easy and, let's face it, even if we wanted to be mind readers, we're not and shouldn't be.

Avoid communicating via text.

Although some people find it extremely difficult to say what they want to say face-to-face, never bring up a serious subject in an SMS and do not start an argument. Text messages can be interpreted in many different ways and are often misunderstood, which increases the potential for an explosive situation tenfold.

Choose your language carefully.

Often, our choice of words can be perceived as defensive, especially if words like "you" are constantly used in conversation. Instead, make a conscious effort to use words like "I" or "we". After all, the last thing you want is for your partner, family member, or friend to feel attacked.

 

Tell them what you need.

If you say directly what you need, you can also reduce some misunderstandings or stress in a particular situation. If you let them know in advance, you can avoid unnecessary disagreements caused by misunderstandings.

Finally,

Couples who do not learn to communicate consciously face problems of intimacy, conflict, and relationship development. Understanding your partner's inner world and letting them understand your inner world is essential for a real connection. If you struggle to 

communicate in a way that improves your relationship, you will eventually begin to drift apart.