SELFISH PEOPLE AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM

Selfish people don't know they are selfish. They just think they are good people who care about their own happiness more than anything else.

But in their pursuit of their own happiness, they thoughtlessly and deliberately bypass people.

Everyone is self-centered to some extent. While a normal level of self-love, self-esteem, and self-confidence is important for good functioning, there is a line between these qualities and excessive self-centeredness, arrogance, or narcissism.

For example, some people constantly try to convince others that their world is better, while others constantly interrupt you to tell you their complaints when you want to tell them yours. Others may talk about themselves for hours and make you feel less important.

People are, by nature, selfish. Selfishness is an innate quality that helps people survive and thrive in difficult times. In general, we learn not to be selfish and to maintain a healthy balance between giving and receiving.

How to deal with selfish people

Accept that they do not care about others.

The first tip for handling self-centered people is to be honest with yourself. Accept that a self-centered person never worries about your needs. Irrespective of how important this friend or lover is to you, you'll be able to know that he or she doesn't care about the sentiments and well-being of others.

Reduce the time you spend with them.

Be modest and do not spend an excessive amount of time with selfish people.

The best way to cater to selfish people is to spend less time with them. Selfish people are often detrimental to your well-being. Why invest in a completely one-sided relationship?

If you want to get along with a disagreeable person, attempt to limit your contacts and stay positive. Also, set boundaries and follow them.

Don't just discuss what interests them-talk about what interests you.

Self-centered people can sabotage your conversation so that they only discuss themselves and what interests them.

Be true to yourself—don't sink to their level.

Selfish people can push your buttons and make you want to tear your hair out—don't do it. Don't play their game and don't behave in a way that is beneath you. Be true to yourself. It's hard to be nice to an egocentric person who is rude or cruel to you, but if you become like that, the situation won't improve. 

Deny them the attention they need.

This is an effective strategy for dealing with extremely self-centered people who refuse to consider others. The trick is to be polite but never to give the attention the ego type seeks. This works if you limit your comments to vague, noncommittal remarks.